constellations #23: small kindnesses no. 2
Back in August I sent out a newsletter that I described as “a list of small kindnesses, for you or for other people, from an individual or from the world, to whoever might need them.” I don’t know about you but I think I need them again. Yesterday morning I was in a funk and just wanted to listen to Bob Dylan sing “It’s All Over Now, Baby Blue” on repeat (I know!!) until I realized that Anohni recently released a cover version of the song, so then I listened to that on repeat for a little while. December 14 also marked a total solar eclipse in Sagittarius, which perhaps is why things are feeling just a bit off.
So — in any case— here’s another list of small kindnesses, mostly things I have noticed in the past couple months, with a few additions from some beloved friends. As always, if you have other small kindnesses you’d like to share, please tell me about them.
A(nother) list of small kindnesses:
serially liking a friend’s tweets
doing someone else’s dishes
complimenting someone in front of their parents
sharing the last cookie
letting someone else take the first hot shower in the winter so the hot water runs out on you
plugging your friend’s phone into the charger while they sleep
alerting someone to a new song by a band they love
noticing, in another person’s house, that the trash can is full and offering to take out the trash
complimenting someone in front of their boss
saying the difficult thing first
scraping the ice and snow off someone’s car so they can stay inside where it’s warm
“I’m glad you asked”
“that’s a nice color on you”
sharing streaming logins
having control of the aux and putting on someone else’s new favorite song instead of your own
complimenting someone in front of their dog
homemade baked goods
warm tea on a cold day
ending a phone call with “i love you”
Also in good news this week: some new songs from Bad History Month, a band who I think makes uncommonly thoughtful music.
“Looking up loving leaves in the wind knowing that I should be grateful / But utterly miserable hateful and unwise / composing mean emails and texts at the front of my mind / while I walk through the sublime / how many times?”
That feels like me. Maybe it feels like you, too. I hope we all look up this week.